Four little words that have changed your life forever: “I think I’m pregnant.” Who knew this phrase would cause so much confusion? Where do you start?
Where To Begin
Your first step should be to come with her to the CPC for a free pregnancy test. Even if she’s taken an at-home pregnancy test, she’ll need to confirm the result with a medical grade pregnancy test.
If the test is positive, our medical staff may recommend a free limited ultrasound. This will show if the pregnancy is viable (growing), how long she’s been pregnant, and if the pregnancy is located in the right place. You and your partner will need all of this information to determine your next step.
The Do’s
1) Listen. The situation involves more than just you.
2) Stay calm. She needs your support now more than ever.
3) Talk about it. Talk with each other as well as with your parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
4) Gather all the facts. The medical professionals and peer counselors at the CPC can help answer any questions you have.
5) Express yourself honestly. It is normal to have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. Make sure she knows she is not alone.
The Don’ts
1) Don’t bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
2) Don’t pressure her. You will do well to work together as a team.
3) Don’t forget. You have an active role. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.
Additional Resources for Men
Information and Support
The CPC offers free, confidential appointments for information about pregnancy, abortion, adoption, and parenting. If you and your partner have questions, need support, or just want to talk with someone about what’s next, we are here for you. Send us a message or call us at 812-234-8059 today.
STD Testing and Prevention
The Medical Clinic at the CPC is a full-service STD clinic in partnership with the Indiana State Department of Health. Call us at 812-234-8059 for more information or to make an appointment.
Parenting Education and Assistance
The CPC offers parenting education and support. Men can attend weekly group classes or one-on-one mentorship sessions to learn alongside other fathers. These Earn While You Learn and 24/7 Dad programs also provide an opportunity to earn “Family Bucks” credit to purchase supplies for your baby, your baby’s mother, or yourself. We have similar programs for moms, too.